my ethos + how I work as a counsellor + therapist in London
The things that cause us most distress tend to be resonances from the past that are triggered in the present (often unconsciously), or which express themselves in fears about the future.
I’ve experienced how deeply life can be transformed through mindful self-compassion: bringing a different focus to day-to-day experience offers new ways of relating to things that happened in the past; fresh perspectives about things that haven’t taken place.
Mindfulness and Self-Compassion complement one another in bringing together age-old approaches that are validated and explained by contemporary neuroscientific research, and which support us in moving towards greater self-acceptance and understanding, in bringing curiosity to our experience, and by standing outside the critical inner voice which can take hold in so many of us from an early age.
Practising Mindfulness and Self-Compassion has informed my life for some thirty years. This, blended with my core training in Psychosynthesis – an integrative therapeutic model which harnesses the imagination – infuses my work as therapeutic counsellor and therapist.
We all hold within us, I believe, the potential to become who we truly are, to move towards greater self-acceptance. Together we can find the most appropriate way for you to move through things that feel confusing or insoluble, and find a sense of meaning.
I recognise the value of a holistic approach which embraces creativity, and understand from my own experience how painful it can be to lose touch with our sense of humour or perspective. We work together to create a context for your own understandings and growth.
the regular weekly sessions ...
are yours, for you to go at your own particular pace and choose what to talk about. To find your way.
I will bring empathy, together with years of experience, to support you in understanding what is happening for you.
Depending on what is appropriate for you at any particular time, I might introduce metaphor and symbolism, poetry, guided imagery or meditation, work with direct reference to the body or with dreams.
Equally, I may include psycho-educational tools or specific theoretical frameworks to help you relate to your experience from a more explicitly cognitive angle.
An initial exploratory meeting is a chance to discuss what brings you to therapy, to gauge whether we’d be a good ‘fit’. By the end of that time you may feel ready to commit to a series of sessions, or you might want some time to think things through further.
To establish a regularity and momentum to our work together, we’d arrange regular weekly face-to-face 50-minute sessions at the same time and on the same day of the week.
I offer therapy or psychotherapeutic counselling to those willing and ready to work at psychological depth on an open-ended basis; and counselling to clients wanting to explore a specific issue or looking for short-term (time-limited), focused sessions.
Essential to whatever approach we take is that the relationship is based on trust – a sense that whatever you want to bring to your appointment will be received with acceptance. It’s important that the therapist you choose has a flexible, individual approach which meets your changing needs within a growing therapeutic relationship: someone with whom you can feel relaxed.