therapy and counselling in London

Through learning to listen to ourselves more deeply
we can access our own powerful inner resources for transformation and healing
and handle stress more effectively.

why therapy or counselling?

Sometimes we feel unhappy with ourselves, or struggle to understand unhelpful aspects of our behaviour:

  • you may be facing a life crisis or struggling with ongoing challenges – and need support of someone not caught up in the situation
  • maybe you’re low or anxious without really understanding why – feeling afraid, stuck, confused, helpless or aimless
  • or you may want to review the way you live your life, move towards greater depth and meaning
  • perhaps you’re aware of an underlying sense of unease and want to increase your ability to live in a more satisfying resourceful way
  • you might recognise certain recurrent patterns in your life and feel unable to change them

Discussing the past or present, exploring patterns that could affect your future, could help you towards understanding and self-acceptance.

Therapy and counselling can open out ways of moving forward: talking with an experienced  therapist or counsellor can broaden your perspective and give greater awareness of the full range of choices open to you.

"Don’t be ashamed to be a human being, be proud! Inside you one vault after another opens endlessly. 
You’ll never be complete, and that’s as it should be." - Tomas Transtromer

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
- Rumi.

Life is not hurrying on to a receding future, nor hankering after an imagined past.”
– R. S. Thomas

“Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination …”
– Mary Oliver

"The greatest gift you can give anyone is some attention."
– Rabbi Lionel Blue

“There's a bluebird in my heart that wants to get out
but I'm too tough for him
¼– Charles Bukowski

questions you might have about therapy or counselling

You may feel that therapy or counselling could help you, but are unsure of what’s involved.

People often ask about the difference between therapy and counselling. The terms are frequently used interchangeably, and it may not be clear at the beginning which would be more helpful to you.

It can be helpful to find a therapist or counsellor who offers both: you can explore the options at an initial appointment. Ideally, there'll be flexibility that enables your work together to deepen and adjust according to your circumstances at the time.

You might be feeling that therapy or counselling could help you, but still have questions – or are wondering whether I'll suit you as a therapist or counsellor. I hope the following may help:

more about the difference between therapy and counselling ...

Both counselling and therapy provide an opportunity to develop self-understanding and recognise our own ways forward. I believe we all have the resources to reach our potential, and that it can be helpful to be supported in this process.

Generally speaking, counselling involves exploring a specific issue or life event (perhaps bereavement, the end of a relationship, job loss), which may be comparatively recent. The work may be short-term, perhaps involving eight to twelve sessions.

Therapy is more likely to be open-ended and entail working together over a period of several months or longer, looking underlying patterns and concerns – where you can go more deeply into a continuing process of change and development. Your reasons for seeking help would tend to be more longstanding issues that have affected your quality of life in different ways – perhaps periodic depression or chronic health difficulties; or recurrent patterns such as unsatisfactory relationships.

It may not be clear at the beginning which would be more helpful to you: it can take time to develop a sense of what you want and where you want to go with the work. I am happy to support you in that process.

I hope I've given you an idea of how therapy or counselling might help you. And if you'd like to explore things further, do contact me ...

how do I choose a therapist or counsellor?

Counselling or therapy can offer a safe space for you to explore difficult experience and feelings. 

Choosing the right person for you is an important and very personal decision: the relationship you build over time will determine the effectiveness of the work you will do together. 

You might want to look for a therapist or counsellor who offers flexibility of approach and the opportunity to explore the options at an initial appointment. 

I hope that the answers to some of these questions will help guide you towards making the right decision for you. And if you think we could work well together, do contact me to arrange an initial appointment ...

how long will it take?

That varies. It can be short-term, time-limited and addressing a specific issue. Or it can be open-ended, looking underlying patterns and concerns. It may not be obvious to you which you are looking for.

It can be helpful to find a therapist or counsellor who offers both. Ideally, there will be flexibility that enables your work together to deepen and adjust according to your circumstances.

I generally suggest you consider committing initially to eight sessions. Towards the end of that time we’d review our work together and discuss our next step – committing to a further block, or blocks, of 8 sessions; carry on working together on an open-ended basis; or deciding to end our work at that point, or perhaps just for for the time being.

If you'd like to arrange an initial appointment to explore this further, I'd be pleased for you to get in touch.

I'd be pleased to hear from you if you'd like to arrange an initial meeting:

counselling or therapy with Lokadhi

You may be feeling alone with whatever’s troubling you, and find it helpful to share the issues that concern you with a therapist or counsellor.

As a long-term mindfulness practitioner, and one of few people specifically trained to bring mindfulness to therapy or counselling, I offer something particular. Research suggests that therapists who have some training in mindfulness have more positive outcomes with their clients than those who have not.

My style is creative and intuitive – whilst drawing on a strong theoretical framework. I listen non-judgementally with genuine interest and concern, and offer thoughtful, attentive support in a personal, safe space. Where appropriate, I bring mindfulness into the therapeutic process.

If you’re struggling – feeling low, confused or at a loss where to turn – I can help you deepen your understanding of yourself: who you are, where you’ve come from, where you are now and where you may be heading ...

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Through learning to listen to ourselves more deeply we can access our own powerful inner resources for transformation and healing – handle stress more effectively. I offer you the opportunity to deepen your understanding of yourself: who you are, where you’ve come from, where you are now and where you may be heading.

If you're wondering whether I'd suit you as a therapist or counsellor, the following may help ...

how will I know if we can work together?

Choosing someone to talk through your most sensitive or intimate  concerns is one of the biggest considerations when thinking of working with a therapist. It's an important and very personal decision.

I create a safe space where you can be received non-judgementally and attentively. I bring creativity and intuition to my approach – whilst drawing on a strong theoretical framework of both psychosynthesis therapy and mindfulness practice.

The way I work is particular to you as an individual, developing out of the relationship we build together. As part of building this relationship, and to establish a rhythm and momentum, I do like wherever possible to work through weekly sessions – at the same time and on the same day of the week. This is particularly important in the early stages of our work together.

I hope this helps give you a sense of my approach. Do contact me if you would like to explore this further.

what approach do you bring to therapy and counselling?

The therapeutic model in which I trained is psychosynthesis; to this integrative approach, I bring mindfulness. As one of few pioneers to have specific training in bringing mindfulness into counselling and therapy I have something very particular to offer.

What psychosynthesis and mindfulness hold in common is a base in body-awareness and a belief that we each hold within us what we need in order to realise our full potential.

Psychosynthesis, which integrates elements of more than one well-established psychotherapeutic model, draws on the belief that out of pain and suffering something new is trying to emerge.

Mindfulness helps us bring present-moment awareness to our experience, whatever it might be. Read more about mindfulness ...

If you'd like to talk further about my particular approach to counselling and therapy, so you can decide if it might suit you, do contact me to fix an initial appointment.

mindfulness and therapy ...

Mindfulness is central to my life and how I work. A longstanding meditation practice inspires, informs and supports every aspect of my life – including, implicitly, my work as therapist and counsellor.

I’m trained to draw on mindfulness as an aspect of counselling and psychotherapy. Where appropriate, I bring mindfulness explicitly into this work.

I have a deep belief in the potential of mindfulness to bring greater richness and awareness into everyday life: a powerful and effective vehicle for change. Paradoxically, by being more present with our actual experience, we are more able to embrace change.

Research suggests that therapists, and trainee therapists, who have some training in mindfulness have more positive outcomes with their clients than those who have not. (Crane, R., Elias D., 2006, Being With What Is - Mindfulness practice for counsellors and psychotherapists, Therapy Today 17(10)31)

My therapeutic training follows the psychosynthesis model, an integrated approach which draws on the belief that out of pain and suffering something new is trying to emerge.

What psychosynthesis and mindfulness hold in common is a base in body-awareness and a belief that we each hold within us what we need in order to realise our full potential.

how long will it take?

It can vary. I offer both open-ended and short-term work. 

Most important is the relationship we build together arising from mutual trust and commitment. You need to take things at your own pace, and that may take time.

Committing to regular weekly sessions, especially in the early stages of our work together, is important – normally at the same time and on the same day of the week. I find that committing to an initial block of, say, eight sessions allows you to find your own way into the process. Equally, it offers the opportunity to explore immediate issues. 

Towards the end of that time we’ll review how things are going for you. You may feel you want to continue on a more open-ended basis, with regular reviews. Or you may decide you’ve got what you want, at least for the time being.

I hope I’ve addressed your immediate concerns about how long it might take to explore an issue in counselling or therapy. If you have further questions I'd be pleased to hear from you.

how are therapy sessions organised?

I find that setting things out clearly enables us to focus on the things that matter most, so before we meet I’ll send you information outlining how I generally work.

We’d normally meet at a regular time on the same day of each week, to establish a rhythm and momentum in our work together. This is particularly important in the early stages of our work together.

I offer both longer-term open-ended therapy, and short-term counselling, initially in a block of eight sessions or more.

Before we start working together we’ll draw up an agreement so things are clear from the start.

I hope this gives you an idea of how things are arranged, and that you'll get in touch with me ...

where do you offer therapy and counselling?

I mainly practice from the Barnsbury Therapy Rooms, 144 Liverpool Road, London N1 1LA – within easy reach of Angel or Highbury and Islington stations. Essex Road, Caledonian Road and Barnsbury overground are just a bit further away. There are regular bus services along Islington Upper Street, some 5 minutes' walking distance.

The consulting rooms are on the first floor, and I regret there is no lift.

I do also offer sessions at Bodymind, 72 Holloway Road, London N7 8JG – about 5-10 minutes' walk from Highbury/Islington stations and on regular bus routes along the Holloway Road.

I hope this gives you an idea of where I work. I will give you detailed directions to the therapy rooms when we arrange an appointment.

how much do you charge?

Many people find the initial session – sharing what's been on their mind, perhaps for quite a time – a great relief.

For that initial meeting. I charge £60, payable at that meeting.

Your regular weekly sessions – normally at the same time, on the same day of the week – are for you, to use in the way that works for you. Each session costs £60, payable in advance. You can pay by bank transfer, cheque or cash.

I do offer some discounted spaces for students and those who are currently unemployed or on a low income.

your next step ...

When you contact me to arrange an initial consultation, we'll try to fix something within the next few days.

It's generally best to email me to make an appointment.

If you prefer, we can first discuss over the phone how I might help you. If I'm not free to speak, please leave a clear message suggesting a good time to talk. Our conversation will be completely confidential, and I'll understand if you need to put me on hold for a few moments whilst you find somewhere private in which to speak.

I hope this helps you decide your next step and that you will contact me ...

before we meet ...

Before we meet, I'll send you information which sets out clearly how I tend to work, and giving clear directions how to find the consulting rooms.

At our initial meeting we can explore any questions you might have about this and talk about what’s troubling you. And it’s important that as our work progresses and our therapeutic connection develops, you feel able to talk openly about what you feel you’re getting out of it.

You can decide at that initial meeting whether you'd like to arrange ongoing appointments – normally at the same time and on the same day each week – or you might prefer to take some time to think about that. 

I'd be pleased to hear from you if you'd like to book an initial appointment ...

at our initial meeting ...

we can discuss what may be troubling you and explore how we might work together.

It’s natural for you to feel apprehensive before we meet, but most people feel reassured by talking things through. This preliminary session will last 50 minutes, costing £60 payable at that meeting. 

You may decide to book an initial block of sessions. Or you might want to think it over for a few days.

And when we do start working together, it’s important that as our therapeutic connection develops you feel able to talk openly about what you feel you’re getting out of it.

I hope you'd like to arrange an initial meeting ...

after that ...

I will set aside your regular weekly time, which will be yours to use in whatever way feels best.

We’ll review our work at intervals of six to eight weeks, when you may decide you’ve got what you need, or that you want to continue.

training and qualifications

For information about my background, training, qualifications and how I keep up to date with professional developments, please go to about Lokadhi ...

I hope this gives you a sense of whether we could work together ... I'd be pleased to hear from you if you'd like to arrange an initial meeting:

areas I work with

With lengthy experience in addressing stress-related issues, I specialise in psychosomatic difficulties, and support clients in coming to terms with many concerns, including:

abuse
addiction
anger
anxiety
bereavement and grief
chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS/ME)
conflict resolution
communication difficulties

compulsive and addictive behaviours
depression
eating disorders
gender and sexual identity
identity issues
life crisis
loneliness
mood swings

low self-esteem
pain and illness
panic attacks
relationship issues
sexual difficulties
stress
trauma
work-related concerns

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I offer consultations at the Barnsbury Therapy Rooms, 144 Liverpool Road, Islington, London N1 1LA. The therapy rooms are on the first floor, and I regret there is no lift.

The entrance is a glass door labelled Barnsbury Therapy Rooms - between the metal gates to the Mapples Business Centre which have 144 displayed on them and the vet's which is painted bright orange - not through the metal gates ...

I sometimes also offer appointments at Bodymind, 72 Holloway Road, London N7 8JG. There is stepped access and, I regret, no lift.

I'll let you have detailed directions to the appropriate venue when we arrange an initial appointment.